Swiping, No Talk, and Sighs

Hello, dear readers.


Online dating feels like an experiment I keep running even though I already know the results. I downloaded Bumble a few days ago, after telling myself I had sworn off dating apps for good. But here I am again, trying to convince myself it is worth the effort.


And honestly? It mostly just feels like a waste of time.


Swipe, swipe, swipe. Maybe a match. And the ones who do match, you try to start a conversation, and they either never reply or unmatch you.


Sometimes I wonder if it's me - maybe I'm not cut out for this digital world of forced charm and half-baked connections. I am an introvert at my core. I crave honest conversations with depth. I'm unsure how to effectively market myself in three to six photos and catchy lines about what I enjoy doing for fun.


It's not that I hate the idea of meeting someone—I want that. I want the late-night talks, the random ”thinking of you texts”, the quiet understanding that grows over time. I just hate this process. The endless scrolling and swiping, the ghosting, the pressure to always have to be “on” when you would rather just be your real, authentic self.


Some people find their person on these apps. I know they do. Maybe I will too, eventually. But right now it feels like yelling into a void, and all the echoes sound the same.


So for now, I am giving myself permission to stop forcing it. To log out if I want to. To remind myself that my worth is not tied to whether someone thinks my profile is cute enough to swipe right on. Real connection is out there. I don't think it's on my phone right now.


And that is ok.


Claudia 💛📱🫧

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